Did you know that according to a recent study by Buss and Shackelford, as many as 60% of all adults will engage in married affairs at some point through the course of their spousal relationship?
let me ask you a question: How many of those 60% do you think are
happier now than they were while being faithful to their marriage?
Probably quite a few of them, honestly. I mean, anything's better than feeling trapped in a bad relationship, right?
But how do you know that your marriage is one that could benefit from an affair? How can you be sure that your circumstances warrant cheating?
Well, as you continue reading I'd like to help you make that decision.
Although most women hate to admit it, sex is actually an integral part of every relationship.
If you and your spouse have seen a decline in sexual intimacy, then you're virtually guaranteed to start seeing problems elsewhere in the marriage.
Unfortunately this puts you in somewhat of a "Catch 22" - The more problems you have in a relationship, the more beneficial sexual intimacy can be, while at the same time, the more problems you have the less you want to have sex.
So, if sexual intimacy is a thing of the past in your marriage, then that's probably a good sign that your marriage could benefit from an affair. The trial-by-fire nature of infidelity will either reawaken the flames of passion in your marriage, or finally sever the connection between you and your spouse.
When Was the Last Time You Fantasized About Someone Else?
As things get worse in your relationship, generally you'll notice an increase in the amount of fantasies you have involving people besides your spouse.
The reason for this is simple - When all your needs are being met, your brain/heart sees no reason to look elsewhere. On the other hand, when things start falling apart you'll naturally start looking for a safer place; many times that 'safer place' ends up being the arms of another man/woman.
When you find yourself constantly fantasizing about someone besides your spouse, then you need to do a reality check and figure out for yourself how much you really want this affair.
If you think that your sexual fantasies are rooted in something besides problems in your marriage, then take some time to analyze where they're coming from.
If, on the other hand, you're 100% sure that an affair is what will make you happy, then by all means, do what you need to do.
Whatever Your Decision - Make Sure You Stick to Your Guns
This is a confusing time in your life, and that's to be expected. However, in the end there's one thing that's more important than anything else: That you enjoy your life!
If there's any part of you that will regret NOT cheating, then go ahead and have an affair while you still have the opportunity.
Just don't back down on your decision once you've already made it happen.
CAUTION: not every person is suitable for dating married people and marital affairs are not a substitute for either fixing a marriage (or finishing a marriage if it is beyond repair), because not all affairs have a positive impact